I’ve been blogging for over a month now and I thought I would take a moment to talk a little bit more about why I want to do a blog. I was on Facebook today and someone asked a general question, “Does the World Need Your Dream?”. I thought it was an excellent question and I think I will be using that question to help further define what I have to offer here.
First of all, I am a single mom. I am not an expert as a single mom, but I do believe that since I have been doing this for 5 years, I have obtained a level of professional accreditation (Title without pay, of course). And before you ask, there is no institution that awards a certification for Single Moms, though someone should.
I see myself as the dandelion (a weed, no less) that is growing in the middle of the football field or the street not realizing that I am about to be flatten by life. I am just growing where the sun is shining.
Some people have been amazed by the things I will take on and all I can think is “if I had thought it through, I probably wouldn’t have done it”. I’m kinda stupid like that ….. but I kinda like that about myself.
My kids and I have had a great time these past few years. We camp, we travel, we do silly things like wear our Pajamas to a late movie, take belly dancing lessons and ding-dong ditch people we know. We dance and sing in the kitchen. We argue, we cry, and we all throw fits and slam doors when life doesn’t go our way. We go through painful seasons.
I would not be so pious as to think I could give advice on parenting. I’m lousy at it. Sometimes I am a seriously selfish brat and no I don’t want to stop what I am doing to help you tie your shoe, straighten your hair, find your sweater. You are old enough to do it yourself!!!
I do take pride in that I do make breakfast every morning and believe me, it took YEARS before I could work that into my morning routine. And I pack my son’s lunch everyday…. though I’m not sure why I do that.
So, what is it that I really have to offer here? Excellent question.
I have a few things going for me as a mom. First of all, I am very protective of my children and will defend them to the ground (and then find out they didn’t quite give me the whole story…. uuugh).
I want them to feel secure, so we are still in the same house we have been in since 2001, even though it is way too big for us and difficult to keep clean. They get to stay in the same schools and have the same friends. (And I don’t have to pack and move us, which is a frightening and overwhelming thought)
I have a sense of adventure. In these past 5 years, we started camping and have met many interesting people and …. um….. creatures. We have been canoeing, fishing, rock climbing, biking on the beach. We ride the train to the zoo. We go Toobing! Last summer, we drove all night, 8 hours, just to spend a weekend at a resort in Missouri. We decide to do things at the last minute and we just go! I love that about us.
I have a serving heart. At least, that is what I tell myself when I’ve signed up as a volunteer for yet another PTA, cub scouts, soccer, volleyball, Habitat for Humanity. I think I just like to be in charge of stuff. So, I am Vice President of this, Chairman of that and Leader of something else. I am THE parent, which automatically puts me in charge! See where I’m going with this?
So, what I lack in actual skills as a parent , I make up in my desire to make the best possible life for my kids. Protection, Security, Bossiness and Fun! And lots of pictures to go with it.
Add in a desire to DIY stuff, which I’m pretty sure is a blessing and a curse from my Dad, and you have a blog that I envision will eventually be a wealth of information about having the best Single Mom Life (sans Parenting Advice).
So, please add your comments about what you would like to see in this blog and what would help you, the Single Mom, to have the best life possible for you and your kids. I would really appreciate the input.